June 9th, 2009

It occurs to me, with a week and a half to go until my wedding, I’ve never officially announced here at Heroine Sheik, “Hey, I’m getting married!” Yes, June 21st, i.e. next Sunday, is the big day, the end to a — gosh, one, two, three, four, five — five year engagement to game designer Scott Jon Siegel, and the culmination of a relationship that has lasted since I was fourteen. It sounds so sweet and vanilla, doesn’t it? Some days I feel like I need a sign hanging from the back of my wedding dress that reads “Poly Bi Sub.” Hell, the thought of being so heteronormative as to only throw my bouquet to women has me up at nights. God forbid I appear normal.

Needless to say, preparation for the wedding has had me running around like a crazy person for the last… well, the last nine months. And life isn’t bound to get calmer anytime soon. Starting Tuesday friends and family from across the country will be descending on San Francisco, putting my mind into overdrive with the thought that so many people I haven’t seen in so long will soon appear in one room. Then of course there’s the fact that I’m destined to forget some immensely important wedding detail that will surely turn my “big day” into a slapstick comedy routine. Have I mentioned how much I hate the phrase “big day?” Oh, and I hate being the center of attention. I was clearly not cut out to be a bride.

Those of you who follow me on Twitter have been watching me freak out over the fact that Scott and I oh-so-brilliantly decided to move apartments… seven days after the wedding. Thanks to my frantic scouting of 25 potential new homes in three days, we now have a place to live (Lower Haight, land of tasty falafel), but the day people leave after the wedding we start packing. Then a week later we go on our honeymoon. Then two weeks later we fly to Philadelphia for a post wedding party. Then I disappear to Europe for two weeks. Then I start my PhD program, which will take the next seven years of my life.

Wooblie wooblie woo! That’s the sound I make to indicate I’m going crazy. I suppose what I’m trying to say is: here’s a heads up about what’s going on in my real life right now. If you don’t see me around as much over the next few weeks, have pity, think happy thoughts, etc. And if you’re planning on getting married — like, ever — please do me this favor: elope. You think I’m joking, but I’m not. Elope elope elope. Now I’m off to see a man about a cupcake cake.

Tags: Bonnie life, gender expectations

9 Responses to “Bonnie is getting married!”

  1. Shayne Says:

    Congratulations! Enjoy your big day ;)

  2. soulofaqua Says:

    I demand you throw a bouquet to the internet. I want it!!!

  3. apotropaios Says:

    Congratulations! And please put up wedding pics!

  4. Bonnie Ruberg Says:

    Oh there will be wedding pics. The wedding pics there will be. Three big wedding things to do post-wedding: parse presents, write thank you notes, and put up a million photos :).

    Thanks for the congrats, guys!

  5. Tim Says:

    congrats peeps

  6. Moo Says:

    Perhaps you might consider why you are getting married in the first place. It may seem like all of the details of the event are piling up and everything needs to be taken care of at the last minute, but if you take a minute to breathe and relax you may find everything is easier to deal with when you focus on the love and happiness you are creating.

    In addition to that, you’re about to share that love and happiness with many people around you. I would say, that is worth the effort you put into it.

    “Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” — Buddha

    Congratulations, Bonnie and Scott!

    P.S. Are you having a game wedding cupcake cake?

  7. Woodstock Says:

    Congrats, Bonnie! Is your wedding in the city?

  8. Bonnie Ruberg Says:

    Thanks for the sage advice, Moo. Calm is definitely what I need right now.

    Yup, my wedding is in the city — out in Golden Gate Park. Pray for sunshine.

  9. düğün salonu Says:

    Heroine Sheik » Blog Archive » Bonnie is getting married!Hey, nice post, very well written. You should write more about this.

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