October 8th, 2008

Mainstream media tackled two topics near and dear to my heart this week: internet porn and polyamory.

First, The Atlantic asked the question, “Is Pornography Adultery?” It’s a complicated topic, of course, made all the more current by examples of starlets and politicians who’ve had run-ins with the wonders of online smut. As an admirer of The Atlantic, however, I’ve got to say I was disappointed by their coverage of the topic. With pages and pages of content, they managed merely to go in circles with the moral issues of porn and cheating. Maybe I’ve finally made the transition from writing student to journalist, but honestly, I don’t want to know how the author rationalizes sneaking off to stare at theoretical Jenna Jameson videos. I want to hear how real people with real stories approach this issue. Whether you like it or not, America, this one goes deeper than hypothetical musing. People are facing this decision every day.

Even more unsettling was a piece in the The New York Times titled “Hopelessly Devoted to You, You and You.” In it, polyamory gets discussed like the bizarre but endearing arrangement of one particularly NYC couple (and one couple only) — who have to balance their secondary partners and their parents in a manner befitting a sitcom. Worse than this glib attitude toward what’s fast becoming a serious alternative to monogamy/norms for people of our generation is this quote from a sex researcher from the University of Chicago, which reads: “polyamorists are probably ‘just talking like that because they haven’t found somebody special.'”

Seriously? And gay people are just talking like that because they got dropped on their heads as babies? Sometimes it’s amazing how close-minded even the intellectual elite can be.

Tags: mainstream media, polyamory, porn

3 Responses to “Is porn cheating and is being poly a phase?”

  1. eli Says:

    That should be “especially the intellectual elite” and not “even the intellectual elite”.

  2. Bonnie Ruberg Says:

    I’d like to think that normally intelligent people are also progressive, open-minded people — but I suppose the intellectual elite does have a vested interest in keeping the status quo.

  3. Alexis Texas Says:

    Yeah agree with above comment, people need to be open minded,. and world will be better!

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