May 15th, 2008

I’ve been hearing a lot of good things about OkCupid recently–the online dating site preferred by polyamorous people, my friends, and apparently grungy hipsters everywhere. So for a recent column I called up Sam Yagan, co-founder of the site. He’s a young humor writer turned fast-talking suit who so isn’t joking when he says he wouldn’t leave the island of Manhattan even for the hottest date (“I’m not getting out my passport to go to Queens”). Here’s what he has to say about his site being more accepting of alternative sexualities:

We allow people to be really expressive on OkCupid. It’s not just a matter of filling out check boxes… There are certain niches of people—like polyamourous people—who find OkCupid to be a much more open and accepting place [than other dating sites]. Someone who’s polyamorous doesn’t fit into the box, and God forbid doesn’t fit into the Eharmony box. We also have a slightly higher than average percentage of people who identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual, probably 13% or 14%. So the people who are marginalized on some of the subscription sites find a really welcoming venue here.

And on the possibility of using OkCupid for cybersex:

If you were to put on your profile, “Hey, one of the things I’m interested in is cybersex, I’m very, very confident than in short order you’ll start finding people who have that interest… If I go to your profile, and you’ve taken the “Do you give a good blowjob?” test, then I’ve got an easy segue to start talking to you about blowjobs. I don’t have to ask, “Do you wanna cyber?” I can just be like, “Hey, you seem to think you give good head. Tell me about it.” Now you’re essentially cybering, right?

Something like that, Sam Yagan, something like that.

Tags: Click Me, social networking

5 Responses to “Click Me: ‘Does OkCupid Shoot Digital Arrows?’”

  1. Jinny Says:

    I’m a huge fan of OKC! I have had a paid subscription on Match and really hated it due to the fact that it was really sterile and made me choose whether or not I was a female looking for men or a female looking for women. I didn’t want to make that choice! I was looking to meet people, male or female. I think I may have even tried signing up on eHarmony once (a long time ago, during my wayward youth :P), but the fact that they only paired hetero couples was downright atrocious and I canceled my account immediately.

    It’s really cool you got to speak to one of the co-founders! I want to give him a hug for having a site like this. :)

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  3. Bonnie Ruberg Says:

    According to Yagan, as a hip young person with cool hair, you were destined for OkCupid all along, Jinny :). They’re definitely cool for their openness. I’m curious what you’re thoughts are on their other features though. For example, Yagan really stresses the tests as something that appeals to women specifically. Has that been the case for you?

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