She says she orgasmed during cybersex, but how do I know for sure?
We all hear a lot of dramatic moaning in the cyber sac (”Oh, oh, I just came for the third time!”), but when it comes to real life orgasms, there are definitely fakers among us. But don’t worry, wary cyberers. Last week’s Click Me gives a whole heap of tips for figuring out what’s really going on on the other end of the screen. Just don’t blame me if the truth isn’t as sexy as you hoped. Naked and masturbating? Nope, clothed and eating a sandwich.
Check back in future weeks for a Click Me about actual techniques for one handed typing. Seriously, can you say “life skill”?
Bonnie Ruberg is a sex, technology, and video games journalist who contributes regularly to publications like The Economist, Forbes, and The Village Voice. By day she's also a comparative literature PhD student at UC Berkeley, where she studies French, English, gender, sexuality, surrealism and perversion. You can reach her at [her first name and last name, all one big word] AT gmail DOT com.
September 12th, 2007 at 4:02 am
I confess, I’ve faked orgasms before, for many reasons.
The obvious reason was my lover wasn’t very good. In cases like that, I usually don’t go back for seconds unless he/she has potential.
Another reason was I didn’t feel sexy, even though my lover was ok. I could have been sick, or maybe I’d been with a better lover earlier in the day.
As for how to tell when I’ve had a mind-blowing orgasm? I usually go quiet for awhile (a minute or two probably). However, sometimes I’ll have little orgasms that don’t keep me quiet too long.
September 19th, 2007 at 9:29 am
Glad someone else can ‘fess up to faking :).
I’m with you; if it’s good, I need a couple minutes. Then again, I’m the kind of gal who’s always looking for an excuse to catnap–though it’s definitely bad form to come and then pass out on your cyber lover :). Still, I think a bit of a pause is probably a good indication for both men and women.