At least for me, part of the fun of cybersex is finding those partners who are gems. Sure, I have to go through many mediocre and bad partners (and I try to be honest with them if I think their technique is flawed and correctable), but the gems make it all worthwhile.

But there is another aspect for me too: By having more partners, I am exposed to more cybersex styles and techniques, thereby improving my own technique.

If you want to go to McDonald’s for cybersex, enjoy. I’ll be dining at the nice French restaurant down the street. It may take me longer to get my “meal”, but I bet I enjoy mine more. ;)

Cray, for the sake of my own sanity, I think I’m going to keep exploring for now, but I think it’s a great longterm project!

Everywhere you go, everything is in disarray, especially in SL. I joined in a bit late, within a few months ago, and what a mess it is. Horrid almost, enough to turn someone off.

I do agree with Cray though- best thing to do probably is just start a community from the ground up with your “bare hands.” Don’t give up the good fight, there’s still hope yet!

I think a site with a chatroom (or better yet, several chatrooms) that offers the added benefits of a social networking system would be ideal That way, people could either meet each other directly in the chatrooms, or could opt for a slower, more cautionary approach using the social networking system. The system will obviously have to be worked out exceedingly well to cater to gamers specifically.

As for the chatrooms…I’m sure you’d agree that setting up something along the lines of “RPG Room”, “FPS Room”, “Dating Room” would do nothing more than ensure a mad rush of people to that last one. What I would suggest is setting up several rooms based not on game genre, but rather on setting. Fantasy, Cyberpunk, Modern day etc etc. Or perhaps “Casual” and “Hardcore”, referring to people looking for flings or monogamous relationships. Again, I’m not entirely sure whether or not this would work … it’s just an attempt to create diverse enough communities while maintaining a decent population in each.

But again, that’s just me going on about a chatroom targeted at gamers. If you’re looking to go for a more “mainstream” (God, don’t tell me they’ve got me saying that, too) audience, it would likely be slightly easier. Moderation would actually be somewhat tricky, but it could be done. You could have a moderation “board” that accepts requests for an account on the site. You could base these on imagination, creativity etc.

This would ensure that the site is populated mostly by people who, at the very least, know how to write. To filter the riff-raff out even further, the final stage of the “exam” could be a cybering session with someone on the board. Obviously, the board would be extremely strict with both of these tests, but hey; it’s that kind of Nazi moderation (pardon the term) that has led to the success of several endeavours.

I apologize for the lecture. Most of those ideas would probably sound like rubbish if I thought about them long enough. I don’t see any of them being adopted by anyone in his/her right mind as it simply involves a lot of work. Still, I am curious to hear your thoughts as well on the matter.

Of course, this could very well blow up in your face in the form of a gazillion trolls, but if moderated heavily enough, it could be a worthwhile endeavour. The biggest challenge would, of course, be evening out the playground, meaning we need a decent balance between men and women with diverse enough interests.

Of course, considering this blog is largely targeted at gamers, I think that the right amount of moderation could result in a community of the more open-minded, mature gamers out there. What more could one ask for?