July 26th, 2007

Last month Clive Thompson wrote a piece on Wired.com about his experiences with voice chat in World of Warcraft: how a strong, confident guild leader can suddenly be transformed into an eleven-year-old boy with the help of Ventrilo. For the old-school gamer (i.e. anyone over the age of sixteen), the importance of voice chat in virtual worlds these days can be jolting. It takes you out of the medium. As Thompson’s piece suggests, it “kills the mood.”

My question is, what about voice chat in virtual worlds when it’s used for cybersex? I don’t mean, is it happening; it’s happening all the time. A large percentage of the Second Life sex workers I’ve spoken with, for example, provide voice services. What I’m not sure though is 1) are they doing it in-world and 2) how it affects that “magic circle” experience–both the magic circle of the game and of sex itself. I’m off to Second Life for answers. In the meantime, anyone have stories they’d like to relate?

Tags: cybersex, MMOs, sex workers, voice chat

8 Responses to “Does Voice Chat Kill the Mood?”

  1. John H. Says:

    Yes, I’m certain it does kill the mood. How could it not?

  2. Anonymale Says:

    In my case, the frustration of having to type (be it one handed or otherwise) during webcam sex eventually became so great that I just rang the mobile of the girl who was likewise stopping every once in a while to type. Voice freed up our typing fingers very nicely. (Bandwidth did not allow for webcam and voice, for those wondering why VOIP wasn’t used)

  3. Bonnie Ruberg Says:

    I feel like that’ s becoming more and more common, just calling people up, especially now that everyone has cell phones. I remember years ago I was cybering with someone who begged to continue things on the phone–but my phone line was my family’s house line! No good.

    Maybe it’s just that I’m a writerly (read: shy) person, but I like the time it takes me to type. I gives me a minute to think about what I want to say and how I want to say it.

  4. Cybersexy Says:

    A couple of years ago, a guy I was cybering with tried to get me involved with Teamspeak. After hearing his real life voice, the cybersex immediately became more difficult for me.

    The problem was that I had this very masculine image of him in my head. But when I heard his voice, he was very soft-spoken.

    The lesson I learned is that making things “more real” is not always a good thing. ;)


  5. Bonnie Ruberg Says:

    Haha, that’s the same thing you said about video chat. Again, I totally agree with you. The problem is, it’s hard enough to find people who are good at text chat. At least when it comes to voice they can’t spell things wrong ;).

  6. Cybersexy Says:

    Call me old fashioned, but my imagination makes people far sexier than they are in real life. Why would anyone want to expose themselves over technology which makes them “less sexy” to me, whether webcam or voice chat?

    In text chat, I’ve learned to tolerate bad spelling as long as they come close enough to the word that I can figure out what they meant.

    That said, you’d be surprised how many people are out there who are good at text chat cybersex. Granted, some of them require a little “hand holding” at first. But if you’re reasonably patient, you can train most lovers to be good at it.

    I will grant you the truly great cybersex lovers are rare, and sometimes not even easy to spot right away. I had one who was a bit shy with me at first. Once I got him to open up, he was one of the best I ever had.

  7. Bonnie Ruberg Says:

    I’m glad to hear that someone else out there has faith in the cybersex :). I’d love to know more about your techniques in training online lovers to be good at text chat, though. Do tell!

  8. Cybersexy Says:

    First thing is to learn which ones to avoid. Guys who introduce themselves with a “wanna screw?” requests are not worth wasting your time on.

    Also, people who cannot speak the same language as you, or can’t speak it very well, are to be avoided. I will add I’ve had some European lovers who spoke English better than many Americans who were fantastic lovers.

    Once you eliminate the hopeless cases, the rest are either ready to go, or will be with a little work on your part.

    One thing to remember is that cybersex is similar to real life sex in at least one respect: if a lover does something you don’t like, you discourage them from doing it again. Unless the faux pas was serious, it’s best to wait until afterwards: “The sex was great, but…” ;)

    Of course, when a lover does something REALLY right, they should be complimented on it. Feel free to gush on it. Don’t we all like to be gushed over, especially when it comes to sex?

    Also, the best way to learn is to do. I’ll be the first to admit I learned from other lovers. To train a lover, you have to do it with them.

    If they continue to use their flawed technique after all of these steps, then you’re better off finding someone else.

    One last tip for those experienced in cybersex: read porn stories (there’s a ton of free sites on the internet, although make sure you have good virus protection on your pc). The reason why is because you can pick up good words and phrases to use in cybersex from a well-written porn story. In addition, you can also get some neat roleplay ideas to explore.

    Class dismissed. :)

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