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Being a scripter I set out to solve this and now have TrueLove which works to my satisfaction and that of a 100 other residents. TrueLove is an add-on to products like Xcite and Sensations. It analyses the flowery prose on erotic keywords and forwards the resulting arousal to Xcite (pending partnership) and Sensations (available now). At the same time one can still click the bits.

TrueLove has enriched my virtual sexlife and that of my friends.

If the author above had a bad experience, she had only herself to blame.

As a tangent, it might also make men playing as women toons more at ease if they no longer have to roleplay gender correct responses.
Also a great point; I hadn’t thought of that! I have found though that even male-presenting players (who, from the best I can tell, are male) use Xcite! constantly. Maybe, like you suggest, the overall performance, whatever the gender involved, is daunting.

They aren't doing it to be sexually aroused, but for other reasons.
Hmm, maybe I’m misunderstanding you. The majority of people I’ve come across definitely seem to be using Xcite! for sexual arousal.

But the Xcite genitals take it one step further by making my (avatar) body directly manipulatable by my partner, who can touch or not touch when she or he wants to.
I think that’s where things get fuzzy. In situations like the ones you’re describing, I think Xcite! can be a great tool, but it requires a careful balance, and that’s almost more difficult to maintain than a purely textual one. But, like you say, when you get there it’s a great experience.

I would like to point out that Second Life has other providers of less scripted genitlia.
You’re totally right, and, I admit, I have next to no experience with them. Which others have you tried? What has your experience been like?

But I do find value in Xcite genitals beyond some of the suppositions offered here (e.g., that people are self-conscious, or that there is a visual dimentsion). Xcite genitals put one into the world in a unique way. Sure, my partner and I can climb onto a poseball and type away, and that is a richer experience than cybering in a pure IM environment.

But the Xcite genitals take it one step further by making my (avatar) body directly manipulatable by my partner, who can touch or not touch when she or he wants to. There is a certain thrill when someone takes control over your body (even if it is a virtual one). Now, such Xcite-enabled surrender can become canned and bland in the hands of a lousy cyberlover. But in the context of a compelling chat-fantasy, this thrill can be unexpected and a compelling part of the experience.

So I would agree that Xcite genitals can be a hindrance to good old-fashioned cybering, but I also feel they can add a new component to the collaborative fantasy that is well suited to the medium (Second Life).

Those involved are easily stimulated: even that kind of perfunctory, rote, repetitive, pre-programmed behavior is sufficient to arouse their sexual imagination. [Hey, kinda like real sex! ;-]

Some people just aren’t very creative when it comes to sex – real or virtual – so they need someone else to provide those bits. Just as there are a lot of bad writers out there, I’m sure there are plenty of bad cybersexers. :-)

Some people are too self-conscious – even in the online arena – to talk dirty: e.g., afraid of looking incompetent. ["Gee, is that the best you can do?"] Things like Xcite! provide an extra layer distancing the player from the act, to increase their comfort zone: after all, if everyone is using the same limited set of pre-programmed actions, they’re less likely to think you’re incompetent at it. This is related to the last point, but there is a difference between being bad at cybering vs. thinking you’re bad at cybering. Many men are not able to appraise their skills accurately in such matters, either over- or underestimating their abilities.

They aren’t doing it to be sexually aroused, but for other reasons: `cause it’s funny, it’s a way of hanging out, whatever. In much the same way one might play a violent online game for reasons other than satisfying your bloodlust: e.g., to be social, because you enjoy teamwork, etc.

Men experience sex in a much more visual way than women. Sure, we like all that physical stuff too. But the reason so much pornography exists, and so much of it is picture or video, is because the people demanding and creating it are primarily men. There is a lack of desire to have intellectual porn, so stories and dialog and all the rest of it get ignored for an experience that is much more visual, and easy to consume.

So what if the same driving force is behind the majority of cybersex? The male counterparts may have no direct problem with cybering through a pre-defined interface. After all, the system now supports better visuals and animation. It’s easier, its faster, and it connects directly to the visual pleasure sense of the men.

And leaves women (such as yourself) feeling unsatisfied. Women experience sex as a much more intellectual and emotional experience. So naturally, typing and receiving a tailored and imaginative response activates your imagination, connecting to what turns you on.

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As a tangent, it might also make men playing as women toons more at ease if they no longer have to roleplay gender correct responses.