What is a game, at its simplest, but an interactive challenge with a goal? Let’s go one better, and say a game — this game at least — takes skill, and that that necessary skill-level, along with the game itself, gets higher/faster/harder as the game continues, until it finally culminates in one last explosive battle.
It’s a simple enough formula, timeless if not cliche. Thing is, this isn’t just the formula for a game. It’s the formula for an orgasm.
Nowhere else in life (apart, maybe, from games) do we get such a such a perfect, predictable curve of human response. Arousal, build-up, climax, short period of closure. The orgasm arc is all around us. It’s the way we’re taught to write stories. Heck, it may be the model for all of our logic, even our art. By nature, we follow the innate and comfortable rhythm rooted in our bodies: our most basic, orgasmic function.
Which, perhaps, explains why games are a lot like orgasms. But the reverse is also true; giving orgasms is a lot like a game. You can, in theory, win, but it takes talent to do it. Get good enough though, and you can win quicker/better/longer than before. There’s satisfaction in a job well-done — the same kind of satisfaction that comes in beating a high score or getting the best possible game ending.
Of course, others have picked up on the orgasm/game connection before. The world of adult-themed flash games (which when you think of it, really are video games stripped down to their essential parts) is full of “make her cum” and “test your hand” titles. The girls may look and react differently to your attentions, but the object is always the same: female orgasm through imposed stimulation.
In some senses this is surprising. In real-life sex men — or so we commonly perceive — care more about their own pleasure than that of their female partners. Yet in these games, only female excitement matters. Does this represent some largely-unexpressed desire to care for a woman’s sexual needs? Maybe, maybe not. Female orgasm, in becoming a game, also becomes a meter of player skill. What matters isn’t that the girl orgasms, but that the (usually male) player has been able to make her do it.
In this way, female orgasm is used as a barimeter of masculinity. But, keep in mind, these games (for some players, at least) are also arousing. So are these men aroused by the on-screen girls’ reactions, or their ability to, literally, play her?
That actual female enjoyment isn’t the real goal here is made clearer by the fact that many of these games feature women who are either unwilling, unconscious, or just unresponsive. Here’s an opportunity for men to safely play out a rape fantasy. Yet, interestingly, penetration isn’t a consideration. It’s female orgasm — an off-the-bat contradiction when the girl in question has been drugged into the land of unfeeling — that’s the prize.
After all, they do say rape is a matter of control, not sexual attraction. The ability to make a woman orgasm, in a way, represents a stronger level of control than just penetrating her — a control that works on both a physical and an emotional level. And video game interactivity, as we know, is the biggest controller of all, making it a perfect medium through which to put this domination into action.
All of which becomes even more interesting in light of a game like Heather Kelley’s Lapis, another title that uses orgasm build-up as the structure for gameplay. The difference with Kelley’s game though, beyond its tastefullness, is that it’s designed for women and girls to play, so that they can learn how to explore themselves — a far cry from being controlled by others.
And there’s still the larger issue at hand: Can getting turned on by a partner’s pleasure ever be an entirely selfless process? Just something to ponder…
On a more light-hearted and slightly related note, Happy Valentine’s Day! Whether you’re currently finding love with another human being, a complicated sex toy, or just a favorite game, remember: It may be a Hallmark holiday, but that doesn’t make the chocolate any less tasty. Mutually-enjoyable orgasms for all!